E20 Happy Birthday Here Is To Clarity In Life

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of Tactical Living by LEO Warriors. I’m your host Ashlie Walton and I’m here with my co-host and husband Clint Walton.

Clint: How are you doing. 

Ashlie: For today’s episode just sit back relax and enjoy the content. And today is a little bit special because it is my husband’s birthday. Happy birthday baby. 

Clint: Thank you.

Ashlie: And I thought it would be great if we can just do an overview for our listeners to showcase a little bit about where you were this time last year versus where you’re at today over all quadrants of your life. So can you talk to us a little bit about that.

Clint: So in looking at it this time last year. I was, I weighed about two hundred and eighty-five pounds. I had you know I came home every day. I just turned on the tv I zoned out and watched tv. I didn’t give you attention that you needed. I didn’t feel a spiritual connection that I ever thought I needed or desired. And my relationships with friends and family were lacking if not gone completely. So from then to now I’ve lost over seventy-five pounds. I have the want and desire to just be with you all the time and it makes me so happy to come home to you every day. And through meditation, through just connecting with my own spirituality it has enlightened me in so many ways to where I feel grounded and connected to everything that’s going around me in this world. And it’s an amazing feeling and you know just the other day we’re talking about we’re sitting in a restaurant and there’s a few people in there and you really are aware of what’s going on around you. But when more and more people go into that restaurant the noise, the chatter is just pipes up and it gets overwhelming almost because you feel connected with everything that’s going on in that instance. But I have to say one of the biggest things for me is the my own self it’s acceptance in how I feel about myself. You know I’ve struggled with my weight and fitness aspects since high school. I mean I’ve fluctuated from 300 plus pounds down to 220 back up to 280 and that’s been kind of my uphill battle my whole life. And until I really found what worked for me by not even looking at diet or exercise as what I needed to do in respect to all the fat diets that are out there and just really identifying not eating anything for myself unless it was giving me something was life changing and there are times still where you know I kind of fall back into old habits and just eat what I want or eat too much or don’t feel like working out. But I’ve come to the fact of accepting those days and moving on from them and just working harder the next time around. 

Ashlie: I’m so proud of you.  

Clint: Thank you.

Ashlie: I can’t say that to you enough and to watch this transformation in what’s really been even less than a year has just been so humbling to not only pay witness to but to also go along the journey with you. If you were to talk to yourself a year ago would you have believed that you could be to this place that you’re out right now?

Clint: Absolutely not. I would have told myself that there is no way you could do that. I would have filled myself with self-doubt and not pushed myself to strive to what I truly wanted to be. Now I’ve really, I’ve exceeded all the goals I had set when I first started this journey and now, I set my goals higher and I set them even bigger than they ever have been. So if I could talk to myself then I would say, you just need to find the place or find what you need to find to make that change because that’s honestly what it took for me to change that.  

Ashlie: And I think you really hit the nail on the head because it comes down to your why. So I think you really solidified your purpose and understood the reasons why you wanted to do these things that you wanted to do in your life. And then you let that be a driving factor for you throughout the whole journey.

Clint: Yeah. And if I didn’t have my own why as to doing it, I would have never reached any of the goals that I set. You know a lot of us set goals for anything that we want to do in life and some people say well set the goals low so you know you can achieve them. But I say absolutely the opposite. Set them so high so you have to work harder to achieve. 

Ashlie: We like to 10x that shit.  

Clint: Exactly. 

Ashlie: Nice grant cardom plug in right. So then another question baby is if we can go back then a year ago and then talk to yourself a year ago. In retrospect overlooking everything that’s happened, what advice would you give to yourself? 

Clint: I would just say that you know the hard times are over and you have nothing but positive things coming your way. So just focus on that. Focus on making yourself happy so you then can turn into making other people happy. Because I’m a strong believer in this is how can you take care of somebody else if you can’t even take care of yourself. That’s huge. If you’re unhappy with any aspect around your life at all how can you go and preach to somebody to change theirs. How can you go out and judge people on how they live their lives?  

Ashlie: And the struggle is real right there. This is something that you and I had great discussion over for probably the past two or three days now. When it comes to people finding the need to interject their own thoughts and opinions on shit that they don’t have any experience with. 

Clint: The understanding for anyone is it’s all perception and everybody has their own perception when it comes into life what other people say. And unfortunately a lot of people especially in the social media aspect spin everything in such a negative way and for us we want to change that negative spin to everything. Why do we have to be so negative about things? Why does it always have to be about me me me me me when in all honesty it should be about. Well that’s great that you’ve achieved that. How about looking at it this way or finding out why you’re so unhappy about a certain situation that whether you see a post online that someone said something you don’t agree with or just figuring out why you feel the way you do about that certain situation. 

Ashlie: Absolutely and we’ve been very fortunate to both go through training with dr. Mark x atkinson at the human potential institute and one of the things that he stresses the most is learning how to control and be the CEO of your own mind. And it wasn’t until this was really spelt out for me that I understood the importance of not letting somebody who’s just spitting out negativity based on their own dissatisfaction alter the way that you feel internally. 

Clint: Because in all honesty when you think about it what does that do for you?

Ashlie: It pisses you off.

Clint: It makes you feel more negative about that situation. And it probably doesn’t affect that person at all.  

Ashlie: Yeah absolutely. So talk to me about how some of that emotional building and really the training that we’ve gotten through this journey educationally has played a role in how you view life now, you view your body, you view how you interject into the world. 

Clint: See and that’s something that is just super deep that goes into you. For me personally it’s and for a lot of people I know you create this story in your head about how things are supposed to be. If someone says something to you, you take your interpretation of it and then you just start spinning it creating this bigger and bigger story whether it’s negative or positive. Unfortunately most the time it is negative, and you create this completely false story around whatever situation it may be. And for me personally I’ve created these stories about who I’m supposed to be, what I’m supposed to believe in. And there’s nothing wrong with me in doing that. But it’s coming to the awareness of I was raised a certain way to believe certain things to live life the way I thought I was supposed to live it. 

Ashlie: I just want to interject here really quick because this in no way means that we discredit our parents for raising us the way that they did. 

Clint: Absolutely not. 

Ashlie: It’s just a matter of coming to the realization that you have the ability to choose for yourself and you don’t have to follow the same constraints and guidelines based on the way that you were raised. 

Clint: And that goes into such a huge topic. Whether it’s gay marriage, whether it’s a hot topic right now is the abortion clinics being forced to be closed down everywhere. All those are personal beliefs that everyone has either they base their judgments off of whether they’ve been born and raised in that environment or something happens throughout their life where they formed a different conclusion on. And whatever your opinion is on any of those circumstances, that’s fine. But make your own decision when it comes to those. And that’s what I’m getting at with everything I’m saying it’s you have the right to choose what you want out of your life. Whether you’re gay, straight, transgender you’re for or against abortions. You’re Christian or Muslim, you are Buddhist whatever it maybe you have the right to choose. We live in the greatest nation in the entire world and we’ve been given that right. So utilize it and don’t infringe upon other people’s rights because you disagree with it. 

Ashlie: I can’t even top it off there. You took it home baby. I love everything about that. I am a proponent of it. I believe in everybody developing their own mindset in their own train of thought and understanding that it was their god given right whatever god means to you to have the ability to make that change and to believe in yourself with such validity that you know that that change is possible no matter how uncomfortable, how painful it might be and when you’re able to really embody that and you’re able to take those and know that they’re tools that you’re always going to have in your arsenal to develop and build upon, you’re really able to enjoy your tactical living.

 

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